Community Guidelines
Last Updated: September 2026 · 中文版本
These guidelines are part of our Terms of Service. They apply to everything you do on BeiMei Date — your profile, your photos, your messages, your voice notes — and to how you treat the people you meet here once the conversation moves off the app. Breaking them can cost you your account.
We wrote them in plain language, with examples, because a rule nobody can predict cannot be followed and cannot fairly be enforced.
The one rule underneath all the others
Consent is not implied by a match. Matching means someone was curious about you. It is not agreement to a sexual conversation, to photos, to your phone number, or to anything else. Ask, and accept the answer — including a change of subject or a silence, which are also answers.
What is not allowed
Minors and child sexual exploitation
BeiMei Date is for adults 18 and over. Any sexualisation of a minor, any attempt to contact or groom a minor, and any child sexual abuse material (CSAM) results in permanent removal and a report to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) and law enforcement.
- Any sexual image, video or description involving someone under 18
- Sexual or romantic messages directed at someone who says or appears to be under 18
- Asking another member for images of a minor, or offering them
- Using the app while under 18, or lying about your age to register
- Asking a member to move a conversation off the app after learning they are a minor
Permanent removal on a first confirmed instance. Evidence is preserved and may be referred to law enforcement.
Intimate images shared without consent
Sharing, threatening to share, or demanding someone's intimate images without their consent is prohibited, whether the images are of a member here or of anyone else. This includes sextortion — using images or the threat of exposure to extract money, more images, or compliance.
- Posting or sending someone else's nude or sexual images without their permission
- Threatening to send someone's private photos to their family, employer or followers
- Demanding money, images or contact in exchange for not releasing photos
- Recording a video call without the other person's knowledge or consent
- Sharing screenshots of another member's private messages to shame or expose them
Permanent removal on a first confirmed instance. Evidence is preserved and may be referred to law enforcement.
Threats, violence and stalking
Threatening, encouraging or glorifying violence is prohibited, as is stalking, surveillance, and publishing someone's private information. This applies to what happens after you meet in person as much as to what is typed here.
- Threatening to hurt, kill or find someone
- Telling another member to harm or kill themselves
- Revealing someone's home address, workplace, school or phone number (doxxing)
- Repeatedly showing up where a member lives or works, or tracking their movements
- Sexual violence, coercion, or pressuring someone into any sexual act
Permanent removal on a first confirmed instance. Evidence is preserved and may be referred to law enforcement.
Sexual harassment and unsolicited sexual content
Sexual content is never acceptable as an opening. Do not send explicit messages, photos or requests to someone who has not invited them, and do not continue after anyone says no, changes the subject or stops replying. Degrading, coercive or objectifying sexual remarks are prohibited at any stage of a conversation.
- Opening a conversation with an explicit message, photo or proposition
- Sending nude or sexual images that were not asked for
- Continuing sexual talk after someone has declined, deflected or gone quiet
- Repeatedly asking for nude photos, or pressuring someone who said no
- Comments that reduce someone to their body, race or a sexual stereotype
- Fetishising a member's ethnicity or nationality
Removal on a first confirmed instance in most cases.
Hate speech and discrimination
Slurs and dehumanising speech aimed at race, ethnicity, national origin, immigration status, religion, disability, gender, gender identity or sexual orientation are prohibited. Stating a dating preference is allowed; degrading a group of people is not.
- Racial, ethnic, homophobic or transphobic slurs
- Content promoting a hate group or its symbols
- Dehumanising remarks about a nationality or immigrant community
- Mocking someone's accent, language, religion or disability
Removal on a first confirmed instance in most cases.
Commercial sexual services and trafficking
BeiMei Date may not be used to advertise, solicit or arrange commercial sexual services, including escorting and paid or transactional arrangements. Any indication of human trafficking or coerced sex work is escalated to law enforcement.
- Advertising rates, bookings, incall or outcall services
- Offering or seeking sex, companionship or images in exchange for money, gifts or an allowance
- Arranging a paid or transactional relationship through the app
- Recruiting members into sex work
- Any sign that a person is being controlled, coerced or advertised by someone else
Removal on a first confirmed instance in most cases. Evidence is preserved and may be referred to law enforcement.
Illegal goods and activity
Do not use BeiMei Date to buy, sell, advertise or arrange anything illegal, and do not use it to organise criminal activity.
- Selling or sourcing controlled substances
- Offering or seeking firearms, ammunition or weapons
- Counterfeit goods, stolen property, or forged documents and identification
- Money laundering, stolen card numbers, or fraudulent financial instruments
- Coordinating any other conduct that is a crime where you or the other member is
Removal on a first confirmed instance in most cases. Evidence is preserved and may be referred to law enforcement.
Scams and financial solicitation
Never send money to someone you met here. Asking members for money, payment details or investments is prohibited, however the request is framed — an emergency, an investment opportunity, a customs fee, or a favour.
- Asking for money, gift cards or a bank, card or crypto transfer
- Investment, trading, crypto or "guaranteed return" pitches
- Claiming an emergency, a stuck shipment or a medical bill that needs paying
- Links to paid content, cam sites or subscriptions
- Phishing for verification codes, passwords or identity documents
Removal on a first confirmed instance in most cases.
Harassment and bullying
Treat people the way you would want to be treated after a first date that did not work out. Insults, contempt and unwanted persistence are prohibited, including attempts to reach someone elsewhere after they have stopped replying here.
- Insulting someone's appearance, body, income, job or family
- Abusive messages after being unmatched, declined or left on read
- Creating a new account to contact someone who blocked or unmatched you
- Finding a member on another platform to keep contacting them
- Encouraging other people to pile on to a member
Warning or feature limits first.
Fake profiles and impersonation
Be who you say you are. Photos must be of you, your age and relationship status must be accurate, and you may not pose as another person, a brand or an organisation.
- Using someone else's photos, or images taken from elsewhere online
- Posing as a specific real person, a company or an official account
- Misstating your age, including to appear over 18
- Automated or bot-operated accounts
- Running multiple accounts, or returning after removal
Warning or feature limits first.
Spam, promotion and off-platform funnelling
BeiMei Date is for meeting people, not for reaching an audience. Do not advertise, recruit, or use matches as a mailing list, and be cautious when someone rushes you off the app in the first few messages — it is the most common opening move in a scam.
- Promoting a business, product, event, channel or service
- Recruiting for a job, a network-marketing scheme or a religious or political campaign
- Sending the same message in bulk across many matches
- Pushing immediately to another app or a personal number before any conversation
- Collecting or scraping member profiles, photos or contact details
Warning or feature limits first.
Self-harm and someone in crisis
If a member tells you they are thinking about suicide or self-harm, that is not a rule violation — it is someone in trouble. Report it so our team can reach out with resources, and if you believe someone is in immediate danger, call 911 or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Encouraging or instructing anyone to harm themselves is a serious violation and is handled under threats and violence.
- A member describing suicidal thoughts, self-harm or an eating disorder
- Someone saying goodbye in a way that suggests they intend to act
Warning or feature limits first.
What happens when someone breaks these rules
The response depends on what happened and whether it has happened before. We are describing the ladder so you know what to expect, not promising a fixed tariff — a first offence that endangers someone is not treated like a first offence that annoys someone.
- Warning. A first, lower-severity violation usually gets a warning explaining which rule was broken. Nothing is restricted.
- Feature limits. Repeated or more serious violations can restrict messaging, likes or visibility while the account is reviewed.
- Suspension. An account under investigation may be suspended so that a person can review it before any permanent decision.
- Permanent removal. Critical violations — child safety, non-consensual imagery, threats of violence, commercial sexual services — end the account on the first confirmed instance. Removal is permanent and applies to any new account the same person creates.
Sanctions are decided by a person. Our automated systems refuse individual messages and put accounts in front of our team, but no account is warned, limited, suspended or removed by software alone — a keyword filter is wrong often enough that it must not be allowed to end someone's account.
Appeals. If you believe we got it wrong, email support@beimeidate.com from the address on your account and tell us what you think happened. A different reviewer looks at it. If we upheld the decision in error, we reinstate the account and say so. Appeals of permanent removals for child safety are reviewed, but the bar for reversal is deliberately very high.
How we find violations
Two ways, and we would rather be specific than impressive about it:
- You tell us. Reports are the most reliable signal we have. Tap the ⋮ menu or the flag icon on any profile or conversation → Report, pick what happened, and add anything that helps. You can block at the same time.
- Automated scanning. Text you write — messages, like comments, your bio and prompt answers — is scanned against these rules before it is saved. Content in the serious categories is refused outright, and the attempt is recorded even though the message never arrives.
Not everything worth a word is worth a refusal, so there are three things we do instead of blocking:
- We ask you to think again. If you are about to send something that tends to get people reported — a sexual message, an insult, a push to another app — you get one chance to reconsider. You can always send it anyway; this is advice, not a gate.
- We warn the person receiving it. A message that mentions money, crypto or payments arrives with a warning attached, as does one flagged as sexual or insulting. You are never left to work out on your own that you are being worked on.
- We ask if it bothered you. After a message flagged as sexual or insulting, we ask, once, whether it was unwelcome — and reporting from there is one tap. You never have to explain yourself to anyone.
Photos are not classified automatically on this deployment. They are reviewed by a person when reported. We also do not perform criminal background checks or identity verification on members — see the safety section of our Terms of Service.
What happens after you report someone
- We never tell the person who reported them, and reporting is not visible to them.
- Reports in the most serious categories — child safety, non-consensual images, threats of violence, trafficking, or a member in crisis — reach a person immediately, without waiting for anyone else to report the same account.
- Other reports are weighted and queued. We deliberately do not remove accounts on report volume alone, because that would hand anyone with a few throwaway accounts a button that removes anyone else — and on a dating app the people targeted that way are usually the ones already most at risk.
- Blocking takes effect instantly and does not wait for any review. It also ends the match, which cuts off messages, video calls, typing and online status in both directions and hides each profile from the other.
If you are in danger or need help now
- Emergency (US & Canada): 911
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US): call or text 988
- Talk Suicide Canada: 1-833-456-4566
- RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline (US): 1-800-656-4673
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (US): 1-800-799-7233
- National Human Trafficking Hotline (US): 1-888-373-7888
- NCMEC CyberTipline: 1-800-843-5678 or report.cybertip.org
- Our safety team: safety@beimeidate.com
Reporting to us is not a substitute for reporting a crime. If something happened to you, you can do both, and we will preserve what we hold and respond to lawful requests from investigators.
社区规范（中文版）
最后更新：2026 年 9 月
本规范是《使用条款》的一部分，适用于你在北美相亲网上的一切行为——个人资料、照片、消息、语音——也适用于对话转到站外之后你如何对待在这里认识的人。违反规范可能导致账号被移除。
我们用直白的语言并附上例子，因为一条无法预期的规则既无法遵守，也无法公平地执行。
最根本的一条
匹配不等于同意。匹配只说明对方对你感到好奇，并不代表同意进行性话题、同意接收照片、同意给你电话号码，或同意任何其他事情。请先询问，并接受对方的答复——岔开话题和沉默同样是答复。
禁止的行为
未成年人保护与儿童性剥削
北美相亲网仅面向 18 岁及以上成年人。任何将未成年人性化的内容、任何联系或诱骗未成年人的行为，以及任何儿童性虐待内容（CSAM），都会导致账号被永久移除，并向美国国家失踪与受虐儿童中心（NCMEC）及执法机构举报。
- 涉及未满 18 岁人士的任何性相关图片、视频或文字描述
- 向自称或明显未满 18 岁的人发送性相关或恋爱性质的消息
- 向其他会员索取或提供涉及未成年人的图像
- 未满 18 岁使用本平台，或谎报年龄注册
- 在得知对方未成年后，仍要求转到站外联系
一经查实即永久移除；证据将予以保存，必要时移交执法机构。
未经同意传播私密影像
未经当事人同意传播、威胁传播或索要其私密影像，无论影像中的人是否为本平台会员，一律禁止。这包括“性勒索”——以影像或曝光威胁换取金钱、更多影像或顺从。
- 未经许可发布或发送他人的裸露、性相关影像
- 威胁把对方的私密照片发给其家人、雇主或社交账号
- 以不公开照片为条件索要金钱、影像或联系方式
- 在对方不知情或未同意的情况下录制视频通话
- 截图他人的私信并散播，以羞辱或曝光对方
一经查实即永久移除；证据将予以保存，必要时移交执法机构。
威胁、暴力与跟踪骚扰
威胁、鼓励或美化暴力一律禁止，跟踪、监视以及公开他人私人信息同样禁止。本规则同时适用于线下见面之后的行为，而不仅限于平台内的文字。
- 威胁伤害、杀害或“找到”某人
- 叫其他会员伤害自己或自杀
- 公开他人的住址、工作单位、学校或电话号码（人肉搜索）
- 反复出现在会员的住处或工作地点，或追踪其行踪
- 性暴力、性胁迫，或逼迫他人进行任何性行为
一经查实即永久移除；证据将予以保存，必要时移交执法机构。
性骚扰与未经请求的性内容
任何情况下都不得以性内容作为开场。不要向未表示欢迎的人发送露骨消息、照片或要求；对方一旦拒绝、岔开话题或停止回复，就必须停止。带有贬低、胁迫或物化性质的性言论，在对话的任何阶段都被禁止。
- 以露骨消息、照片或性邀约开启对话
- 发送对方未索取的裸露或性相关图片
- 在对方拒绝、回避或不再回复后继续性话题
- 反复索要裸照，或向已明确拒绝的人施压
- 把对方简化为身材、种族或性刻板印象的言论
- 对会员的族裔或国籍进行性癖好化（fetishising）的表达
通常首次即移除.
仇恨言论与歧视
针对种族、族裔、国籍、移民身份、宗教、残障、性别、性别认同或性取向的侮辱性称谓与非人化言论，一律禁止。表达个人择偶偏好是允许的；贬低某一群体则不被允许。
- 种族、族裔、针对同性恋或跨性别者的侮辱性称谓
- 宣扬仇恨团体或其标志的内容
- 对某一国籍或移民群体的非人化言论
- 嘲笑他人的口音、语言、宗教信仰或身心障碍
通常首次即移除.
商业性服务与人口贩运
禁止使用北美相亲网宣传、招揽或安排商业性服务，包括陪游陪侍以及各类有偿或交易性关系。任何涉及人口贩运或被胁迫从事性交易的迹象，都会上报执法机构。
- 发布价目、预约、上门或到店服务信息
- 以金钱、礼物或“包养津贴”换取性、陪伴或影像
- 通过本平台安排有偿或交易性关系
- 招募会员从事性交易
- 任何显示某人被他人控制、胁迫或代为招揽的迹象
通常首次即移除；证据将予以保存，必要时移交执法机构。
非法物品与违法活动
不得利用北美相亲网买卖、宣传或安排任何违法物品或交易，也不得用于组织犯罪活动。
- 销售或求购受管制药物
- 提供或求购枪支、弹药或其他武器
- 假冒商品、赃物，或伪造证件与身份文件
- 洗钱、贩卖被盗银行卡信息或其他金融欺诈工具
- 策划任何在你或对方所在地构成犯罪的其他行为
通常首次即移除；证据将予以保存，必要时移交执法机构。
诈骗与金钱索取
绝不要向在平台上认识的人转账。向会员索要金钱、支付信息或要求投资一律禁止，无论以何种名义——突发急事、投资机会、清关费用或“帮个忙”。
- 索要现金、礼品卡，或要求银行、信用卡、加密货币转账
- 投资、炒股、加密货币或“保本高收益”类推销（杀猪盘）
- 谎称急事、包裹被扣、医疗费用等需要代付
- 发送付费内容、直播或订阅链接
- 骗取验证码、密码或身份证件
通常首次即移除.
骚扰与欺凌
请以你希望被对待的方式对待他人——包括一次并不顺利的约会之后。侮辱、轻蔑和不受欢迎的纠缠一律禁止，包括在对方已停止回复后，转到其他平台继续联系。
- 羞辱对方的外貌、身材、收入、职业或家庭
- 在被取消匹配、被拒绝或对方已读不回后发送辱骂消息
- 注册新账号去联系已拉黑或取消匹配你的人
- 在其他平台上找到该会员并继续联系
- 煽动他人一起围攻某位会员
警告或功能限制起.
虚假资料与冒充身份
请如实呈现自己。照片必须是本人，年龄与感情状况必须真实，且不得冒充他人、品牌或机构。
- 使用他人照片，或从网络上取得的图片
- 冒充某个真实存在的人、公司或官方账号
- 谎报年龄，包括为了显示已满 18 岁
- 由程序或机器人操作的账号
- 同时运营多个账号，或被移除后重新注册
警告或功能限制起.
垃圾信息、推广与引流站外
北美相亲网是用来认识人的，不是用来触达受众的。不要在平台上打广告、招募成员，或把匹配对象当成群发名单；如果对方在最初几条消息里就急着把你带离平台，请提高警惕——这是诈骗最常见的开场。
- 推广生意、产品、活动、频道或服务
- 招聘、拉人做传销/微商，或进行宗教、政治动员
- 向大量匹配对象群发相同内容
- 几乎没聊就急着要微信、WhatsApp 或手机号
- 收集或抓取会员资料、照片与联系方式
警告或功能限制起.
自我伤害与危机中的会员
如果有会员告诉你他有自杀或自伤的想法，这不是违规，而是一个正处于困境中的人。请举报，让我们的团队能够提供求助资源；若你认为对方有立即危险，请拨打 911 或 988 自杀与危机求助热线。而鼓励或教唆他人自我伤害属于严重违规，按“威胁与暴力”处理。
- 会员描述自杀念头、自伤行为或进食障碍
- 以疑似准备付诸行动的方式告别
警告或功能限制起.
违规后果
处理方式取决于行为本身以及此前是否发生过。我们把处理阶梯写出来，是为了让你知道会发生什么，而不是承诺一份固定的价目表——一次危及他人安全的首次违规，不会与一次令人不快的首次违规同等处理。
- 警告。首次发生、情节较轻的违规通常只会收到警告，说明违反了哪一条规则，不会限制任何功能。
- 功能限制。重复违规或较严重的违规，可能在审核期间限制发消息、点赞或资料曝光。
- 暂停账号。正在调查中的账号可能被暂停，以便在作出永久决定前由人工完成审核。
- 永久移除。严重违规——涉及未成年人、未经同意的私密影像、暴力威胁、商业性服务——一经查实即终止账号。移除为永久性，并适用于同一人此后注册的任何新账号。
所有处罚均由人工决定。自动系统会拦截单条消息并把账号提交给我们的团队，但不会有任何账号仅凭软件就被警告、限制、暂停或移除——关键词过滤出错的概率，高到不足以让它决定一个人的账号。
申诉：如果你认为我们判断有误，请用账号绑定的邮箱发信至 support@beimeidate.com，说明你所了解的情况。将由另一位审核人员重新查看。若确属我们判断失误，我们会恢复账号并如实说明。涉及儿童安全的永久移除同样可以申诉，但推翻决定的门槛会非常高。
我们如何发现违规
只有两条途径，我们宁可讲清楚，也不愿讲得好听：
- 你的举报。举报是我们最可靠的信号。在任意资料页或对话中点击 ⋮ 菜单或旗帜图标 →「举报」，选择发生了什么，并补充有帮助的信息。你可以同时拉黑对方。
- 自动扫描。你所撰写的文字——消息、点赞留言、个人简介与问答回答——在保存前都会按本规范扫描。属于严重类别的内容会被直接拒绝；即使消息未送达，该次尝试也会被记录。
并非所有值得提醒的内容都值得拦截，因此除了拦截之外，我们还做三件事：
- 请你再想一想。当你准备发送的内容属于容易被举报的类型——性相关消息、羞辱性言论、催促转到其他软件——我们会给你一次重新考虑的机会。你仍然可以坚持发送；这是提醒，不是关卡。
- 提醒收到消息的人。提到金钱、加密货币或支付的消息，送达时会附带警示；被标记为性内容或侮辱性的消息同样如此。你不必独自判断自己是不是正在被套路。
- 询问你是否感到不适。在收到被标记为性内容或侮辱性的消息后，我们会询问一次是否让你感到不适——从那里举报只需一次点击。你不需要向任何人解释自己。
为了让你不要依赖并不存在的东西，我们也说明目前没有做的事：本部署尚未对照片进行自动分类，照片在被举报后由人工审核；我们也不对会员进行犯罪背景调查或身份核验，详见《使用条款》中的安全提示章节。
举报之后会发生什么
- 我们绝不会告知被举报者是谁举报的，被举报者也看不到举报记录。
- 最严重类别的举报——儿童安全、未经同意的私密影像、暴力威胁、人口贩运，以及处于危机中的会员——会立即转交人工，不需要等待第二个人举报同一账号。
- 其他举报会经过权重计算后进入队列。我们刻意不以举报数量直接移除账号：那等于把「移除任何人」的按钮交给任何能注册几个小号的人，而在相亲平台上，最容易被这样针对的，往往正是本就处境最危险的人。
- 拉黑立即生效，不需要等待任何审核，并且会同时结束配对：双方都无法再发消息、发起视频通话或看到对方是否在线，资料也会互相隐藏。
如果你正处于危险中
- 紧急情况（美国与加拿大）：911
- 988 自杀与危机求助热线（美国）：拨打或发送短信至 988
- 加拿大自杀求助热线：1-833-456-4566
- RAINN 全美性侵害求助热线：1-800-656-4673
- 全美家庭暴力求助热线：1-800-799-7233
- 全美人口贩运求助热线：1-888-373-7888
- NCMEC 儿童保护举报专线：1-800-843-5678
- 我们的安全团队：safety@beimeidate.com
向我们举报并不能替代报警。如果你受到了侵害，两件事可以同时进行；我们会保存所持有的相关记录，并配合执法机关的合法调查要求。